The Truth About “Love & Light” Practitioners
As a holistic practitioner, I embody both light and darkness. In no way do I ever claim perfection (that doesn’t exist) but I do claim authenticity & wholeness.
My work flows from a place of integration because true spirituality has always been about wholeness.
I have faced my shadow (many, many times 😅🙃), healed with her, and learned to call upon it when the moment demands.
The biggest red flag I see in the modern Western spiritual community is practitioners who dismiss darkness entirely, insisting they are only “love and light.”
This isn’t enlightenment.
It’s spiritual immaturity, a refusal to do the deep, sometimes terrifying work of integrating the very parts of themselves they’ve been conditioned to fear.
When someone self-labels as a “lightworker” or “white witch,” I don’t feel safe letting them guide me.
If they cannot sit with their own shadow, they cannot hold someone like me — someone who has walked through darkness, reclaimed rage, and emerged whole.
Healing is not about staying soft and palatable.
It’s about facing the fire, claiming your power, and becoming so integrated that nothing scares you — not even yourself.
Before spirituality was commercialized, our ancestors honored both light and dark.
The same goddess who birthed life also presided over death.
Sacred fires warmed homes and burned down injustice.
Women were revered as healers and warriors.
Darkness wasn’t “evil.”
It was simply the other half of the divine cycle, essential for balance and survival.
When white supremacy & patriarchal religions rose to power, this balance was deliberately destroyed.
The fierce, protective aspects of feminine power were demonized, while only the nurturing, soft aspects were elevated.
This was done to disempower women and keep communities under control.
Many dark goddesses were originally protectors of women and children. Their myths were rewritten to frighten women away from their own power:
Medusa
Once a priestess of Athena, she was raped by Poseidon.
Her serpent hair and stone gaze were gifts of protection, turning predators to stone.
Patriarchal retellings cast her as a monster to justify her beheading, making female rage seem dangerous rather than sacred.Lilith
The first woman in Jewish mysticism, created equal to Adam.
When she refused to submit to him sexually, she left Eden.
Later, she was rewritten as a child-killing demon to terrify women into compliance.The Morrígan
A Celtic goddess of war and sovereignty.
She was a voice of protection for her people, guiding warriors and defending the land.
Over time, she was reduced to a dark omen of chaos instead of being honored as a fierce guardian.Hekate
A revered Titaness of magic and crossroads.
She guided souls through transitions, protected the vulnerable, and brought justice to the wronged.
Later depictions cast her as a frightening witch queen lurking in shadows.Cassandra
The prophetess of truth in Greek mythology.
Cursed to never be believed, she represents every woman whose warnings are dismissed, every truth-teller silenced by power structures.
These rewrites taught women a devastating message:
“If you express anger, you are dangerous.
If you fight for justice, you will be called a monster.”
The Sacred Example of Kali
Though Kali is not of my ancestry, I want to mention her with deep reverence because she is one of the most powerful and complete examples of integrated feminine power.
In Hindu tradition, Kali is both terrifying and beloved:
She destroys illusions and ego, cutting through falsehoods with her sword.
She is fierce and blood-soaked, yet utterly devoted to her children and devotees.
She embodies creation and destruction as one continuous cycle, showing us that wholeness comes from embracing both our light and our shadow.
Kali represents the truth our Western traditions tried to erase:
that destruction is holy, especially when it clears the path for justice and renewal.
She reminds us that rage can be protective, that boundaries are sacred, and that fearlessness is a form of divine love.
How This Shaped New Age Spirituality
Today’s pastel, Instagram-ready spirituality reflects the ancient patriarchal distortion.
The “good” goddess archetype is soft-spoken, nurturing, forgiving.
The “bad” archetype is angry, powerful, vengeful — and therefore shamed or erased.
Modern wellness culture sells the soft archetype because she’s profitable and non-threatening.
She buys crystals, journals quietly, meditates prettily — but she doesn’t hex abusers or confront systemic harm.
This has led to a dangerous spiritual gaslighting loop:
A woman experiences harm or injustice.
She feels rage — a sacred, appropriate response.
The community tells her: “Your anger is low-vibe. You need to forgive and rise above.”
She represses her anger and turns it inward as shame or illness.
The cycle repeats, leaving abusive systems untouched.
It’s no accident that women in these spaces are punished for taking up space in these ways, being blunt, or demanding accountability.
It keeps the entire structure running smoothly for those in power.
Why Shadow Integration Is Sacred
The shadow aspects of yourself are not “bad.”
They are your:
Fierce boundaries
Protective rage
Unapologetic truth-telling
Primal instincts that know when danger is present
When you integrate your shadow, you gain access to the full spectrum of healing.
You become the healer who can sit in darkness with others, guiding them through grief, rage, and transformation.
When you deny your shadow, you unconsciously side with oppressors, gaslighting those who bring truth:
You encourage premature forgiveness instead of justice.
You shame clients for anger rather than helping them process it.
You maintain the very hierarchies you claim to be healing.
This is why I don’t trust practitioners who cling to “love and light” alone.
Without shadow work, their guidance will always be partial and unsafe.
Practitioners like that are also a huge risk for entity attachments that can transfer to you during readings— so be very careful
The Important Role of Anger
Anger is not “low vibe.”
It is sacred medicine.
Anger tells you when a boundary has been crossed.
It fuels activism, protection, and ancestral healing.
Righteous rage has fueled every liberation movement in history — abolition, women’s rights, anti-colonial resistance.
When spiritual communities shame women for their anger, they are participating in a modern witch trial.
The language has changed, but the intention remains: silence the women who might disrupt the status quo.
A Gentle Shadow Integration Practice
If you are new to shadow work, it’s best to start slow and safely.
This activity is rooted in humanistic psychology, which sees the self as inherently good and whole, with healing emerging through acceptance and self-awareness.
Purpose:
To gently explore the parts of yourself you’ve rejected, so you can integrate them rather than fear them.
Step 1: Create a Safe Space
Light a candle or hold a comforting object.
Say out loud: “I am safe to explore all parts of myself. I am whole.”
Step 2: Meet Your Shadow
Close your eyes and take three deep, slow breaths.
Imagine a younger version of yourself — any age that arises naturally.
This younger you holds a feeling you’ve been told is “bad”: anger, jealousy, grief, or rage.
Step 3: Witness Without Judgment
Say to this part of yourself: “I see you. You are safe with me.”
Listen to what this younger you wants to say.
Notice what arises — images, sensations, memories — without needing to fix or change it.
Step 4: Offer Integration
When ready, place your hand over your heart.
Say: “You are part of me, and I accept you. Together, we are whole.”
Step 5: Reflect
Journal one sentence that begins with: “My shadow teaches me…”
Thank yourself for showing up bravely, no matter how small the step felt.
This slow, compassionate practice builds the foundation for deeper shadow work.
Over time, you’ll find that the parts of yourself you once feared become your fiercest allies.
Reclaiming the Forgotten Goddesses
When you call on figures like The Morrígan, Hekate, Medusa, Lilith, Cassandra, and Kali, you are reclaiming the parts of yourself patriarchy tried to bury.
Medusa teaches you to turn your pain into boundaries so strong they petrify harm.
The Morrígan gives you the courage to fight for your children, community, and sovereignty.
Hekate walks beside you as you cut ties to what no longer serves and choose empowered paths.
Cassandra helps you speak truth even when silenced or doubted.
Lilith reminds you that refusal to submit is holy.
Kali shows us that destruction and creation are one, and that rage can be as sacred as love.
These archetypes aren’t about blind revenge.
They’re about restoring balance, ensuring that harm cannot continue unchecked.
Walking the Integrated Path
As a holistic practitioner, I reject the shallow “good vibes only” paradigm.
I am here to hold the entire spectrum of human experience:
Birth and death
Love and rage
Creation and destruction
I’ve done my shadow work, and I continue to deepen it.
This allows me to sit with clients in their darkest moments without flinching — to guide them not just toward peace, but toward power, sovereignty, and wholeness.
Healing isn’t about pretending darkness doesn’t exist.
It’s about learning to wield it wisely, just as our ancestors did.
When we reclaim the dark feminine, we don’t just heal ourselves.
We rewrite spiritual culture so that future generations never have to choose between being spiritual and being fully, fiercely alive.
Please don’t forget that archangels like Archangel Michael exist for a reason— and he himself can travel to the lowest, darkest planes to the very highest light.
He’s my main archangel and has been my protector since childhood, so that I could develop and practice this work.
Thank you for being here.
Sending you love (and hopes that you’ll take time to befriend and understand your way through your shadow self)!
🥰